Gender identity resources is part of an ongoing effort to improve the TU campus climate
for students. To learn more, read the Diversity Strategic Plan and its finding.
Gender Identity and Expression
Gender identity is one鈥檚 own sense of being male, female, neither, both or another
gender. It can correlate with an individual鈥檚 assigned sex or it can differ. For transgender,
nonbinary, genderqueer and gender non-conforming people, their sex assigned at birth,
or natal sex and their gender identity are not the same.
An individual鈥檚 gender expression is a composite of behavior, mannerisms, interests
and appearance that allows an individual to publicly express or present their gender.
Gender expression can but does not always reflect a person鈥檚 gender identity. It is
also separate from sexual orientation and sex assigned at birth.
What are Pronouns?
A pronoun is a word that refers to either the person talking (I or you), someone or
something that is being talked about (she, it, them), or their name. Commonly used
pronouns such as she and he imply one鈥檚 gender identity. Gender-Neutral Pronouns refer
to an individual that does not imply 鈥榤ale鈥 or 鈥榝emale,鈥 for instance, they, xe, or
ey.
Neopronouns are new (neo) pronouns that are increasingly used in place of 鈥渟he,鈥 鈥渉e,鈥
and even 鈥渢hey鈥 that deviate from common pronoun options but do not indicate gender.
Examples include: xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir/hirs, and ey/em/eir.
Additionally, some individuals do not use pronouns at all or use nameself pronouns,
for instance, someone named Doc may use Doc/Docs pronouns. Instead of using pronouns,
some individuals refer to themselves by name, epithet or rephrase sentences to omit
pronouns by using passive voice. They ask that you refer to them by their name, for
instance, 鈥淒oc ate Doc鈥檚 food because Doc was hungry.鈥
Commonly Used Pronouns
Use the table below to enter the pronouns and understand how they work.
- Subject: (Column 1) laughed at the notion of a gender binary.
- Object: They tried to convince (column 2) that asexuality does not exist.
- Possessive: (Column 3) favorite color is unknown.
- Possessive Pronoun: The pronoun card is (column 4).
- Reflexive: (Column 1) think(s) highly of (column 5).
1 |
2 |
3 |
4 |
5 |
(f)ae |
(f)aer |
(f)aer |
(f)aers |
(f)aerself |
e/ey |
em |
eir |
eirs |
eirself |
he |
him |
his |
his |
himself |
per |
per |
pers |
pers |
perself |
she |
her |
her |
hers |
herself |
they |
them |
their |
theirs |
themself |
ve |
ver |
vis |
vis |
verself |
xe |
xem |
xyr |
xyrs |
xemself |
ze/zie |
hir |
hir |
hirs |
hirself |
Pronouns Usage
Pronouns for Practice
For more practice use to understand pronoun usage.
Updating Your Pronouns, Gender Identity & Chosen/Preferred Name
Students, faculty and staff can identity their pronouns, gender identity and chosen/preferred
name for use in TU communications by completing the .
Learn more about Chosen & Preferred Name Resources. If you have questions, please contact OIIENameChange AT_TOWSON.
Report a Bias-Related Incident
Any member of the university community can make a report about a possible bias-related
incident. Even if you are unsure whether you have experienced a bias-related incident
or have questions use the form below.
What is a Bias-Related Incident?
The term 鈥榖颈补蝉-谤别濒补迟别诲鈥 refers to language and/or behaviors that demonstrate bias against persons because
of, but not limited to, actual or perceived: ability, color, ethnicity, gender, gender
identity and expression, national origin, race, religion and/or sexual orientation.
Examples may include defacement of posters or signs, comments or messages, jokes or
humor, vandalism to personal or university property, or similar acts if there is evidence
that the target of the incident was chosen because of a characteristic such as those
listed above.
Submit an Official Report regarding an Incident of Bias or Discrimination for Cases
involving Students
Submit an Official Report regarding an Incident of Bias or Discrimination for Cases
involving Employees
FAQs
Why is it important to respect preferred pronouns as students, faculty, staff, administrators
and allies?
Understanding pronouns beyond the two options of she/her/hers and he/him/his creates
space for experiences and identities outside of the gender binary. Pronouns are one
of the ways we portray our identities. When someone asks you to use their pronouns,
they are asking for you to respect their identity. Correctly using an individual鈥檚
preferred pronoun or using a gender-neutral pronoun if not indicated or unsure is
an easy way to show respect and create a welcoming and inclusive space.
It is never safe to make assumptions about an individual鈥檚 pronouns based on how they
look and how we perceive them. Whether intentional or unintentional, using the wrong
pronouns can be hurtful, angering, and seen as a sign of disrespect. It is like saying:
鈥測ou do not matter to me, and I do not respect you as a person.鈥 Choosing to ignore
or disrespect an individual鈥檚 pronouns is not only disrespectful and hurtful but also
oppressive. It can make a person feel not only disrespected but alienated, dismissed,
invalidate or dysphoric.
What if I make a mistake?
It is OK if you made a mistake. Let's discuss what you do next.
If you realize the mistake at that moment, you can say, 鈥淪orry, I meant (insert pronoun).鈥
If you become aware after the fact, apologize in private and move on.
Do not make your apology an event of mass proportion. Though you may feel bad, it
is not the responsibility of the misgendered to make you feel better.
Take an active role in your classes and correct students using the wrong pronoun.
In the classroom, you can say, "Logan uses the pronoun he," and continue the discussion.
If a faculty or staff member or student uses the wrong pronoun, do not ignore their
error. Ask the person misgendered if they would like your help in correcting that
person. You can approach the person and say, 鈥淚 noticed you were getting referred
to with the wrong pronoun earlier, and I know that could be hurtful. Would it be OK
if I take them to the side and remind them about your pronouns?鈥
How to ask a person what their pronouns are?
Asking for someone鈥檚 pronouns is as easy as saying: 鈥淲hich pronouns do you use?鈥 You
can start the conversation by introducing yourself using your pronouns, for example,
鈥淗i, my name is Professor Guiterrez, and I use the pronouns she/her/hers.鈥
You can also say, 鈥淚 ask everybody this question鈥 or 鈥淚 don鈥檛 make any assumptions
about the pronouns people use; which pronouns would you like me to use for you?鈥
How do I pronounce or get clarification about pronouncing pronouns?
Don鈥檛 panic over the pronunciation, while there are common ways to pronounce these
pronouns, there are many variations, so it is best to ask. If someone trusts you enough
to share their pronouns with you, you should feel comfortable asking for clarification
if you need it. For example, 鈥淗ey there, Doc, I noticed the pronoun 鈥渪-e鈥 on your
nametag, and I want to make sure I am pronouncing that right. Can you tell me how
you pronounce it?鈥.
You also may find yourself in a situation where you hear a pronoun you aren鈥檛 familiar
with and do not know how to use. Try this: 鈥淒oc, I heard you say you use 鈥渮e/zir鈥
pronouns, and I want to make sure I am using them correctly. Can you help me?鈥. Once
someone shares a new set of pronouns with you, make sure to take some time on your
own to practice them in a few different sentences.
How do I share my pronouns?
- when introducing yourself
- email signature
- business cards
- online (social media bios, name on zoom)
- pins/badges/buttons
- name tags
How do I share someone else鈥檚 pronouns?
Normalize asking everyone what their pronouns are regardless of their appearance.
Not just people you are unsure of. As spaces change, checking in again with what someone
else鈥檚 pronouns are.
What if I do not know what my pronouns are and how do I change that?
It is okay not to know what pronouns you would prefer to use for yourself, and it鈥檚
okay if your pronouns change. The most important thing is to educate yourself and
learn what makes you feel seen and understood. There is a wealth of resources about
the meaning of different pronouns. This page is a good place to start. It is okay
to try out different pronouns as you learn what fits best.
Resources
The resources below are from recommended local providers of transgender care and education.
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us via our email Inclusion AT_TOWSON or by calling us at 410-704-0203.
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